Smart Mom Contest

Today was Annual Day of play school of our kid. We visited Kamani Auditorium to attend the function. School also organized a contest for mothers i.e. SMART MOM CONTEST. I was also one of the contestants. Since my childhood I came across many contests but this was totally different one. I was excited but bit nervous too as after a long time I was about to face a large audience.

We reached at 4.30 PM. After few performances of kids as scheduled the contest started. Judges took their place. After the first contestant, my name was called for first round. I took the deep breath and answered the question. I was not expecting that I will clear this round. Some of the moms have answered terrifically well. So I was sure I will not be selected. But hey! I was surprised to know my name in the second round of the contest. Now second round started. One of the judges asked me “What’s your sweet dream that yet to be fulfilled and what’s your biggest achievement so far.?”



My answer was:

Good evening parents and judges.

I am Anuradha Kumar, Ayush Kumar’s mother. My husband is in IT profession. We both try to give best platform to our child to grow. Few months back we started searching for play school for our child. Our criteria were affordable fees, less distance and good environment. Our search came to an end when we visited Blooming Flowers. Now my child is a part Blooming Flowers Family.

Everybody has some dream that they want it to be fulfilled. Dream gives us burning desire and develops an attitude that gives us energy. They give meaning to our lives. It gives us very nice feeling when we think of it. But how many of us work for our dream to make it real. Some of us never take any step due to fear of failure. Only people with vision work hard & overcome all barriers to make their dream true. In short only those people succeed who learn from their failure and bounce back again with more energy.

I was brought up in very supportive environment and I have always been a career oriented girl. I dreamt of being a successful entrepreneur. I did job as HR person for 3 yrs and but decided to leave my job on the birth my loving child. Leaving job was my own decision but still I was not happy from inside. Something was missing and some sort of battle was going in me. Then I decided to start something of own and make my dream of being successful entrepreneur true. I already prepared the ground required for this and put myself get going. I am not denying of challenges I might face but yes I will not give up this time.

I am appealing to all moms, not to give up your hope and your dream, move on. I am very much confident that you all capable of making your dream happening along with family.

I believe, smart mom is one who manages all things well despite of challenges she faces.

Wish me luck and pray for me, so that I get success.

If my dream gets fulfilled, this would my biggest achievement I ever had.



Bad luck this time, I was not in the list of three finalists. But it’s ok. At least I cleared the first round. This contest arose one question in my mind “Can these few question can determine whether one mom is smart or not”. I don’t know this entire thing. I know one thing only I love my child so much.

Joint Family System

Why today’s women prefer nuclear family? Or why women’s feel uncomfortable in joint family?
Firstly every woman wants separate house where she will be the master and other family member should obey her. This could not be easily possible in joint family. That’s why most of the women prefer to live in separate house with their children and husband.

Secondly these days most of the women are career oriented and prefer to do job. Working women find difficult to prepare food for so many people in the family. So to avoid troublesome maintenance of kitchen for large number of people, prefer to live in nuclear family to fulfill her carrier.

Thirdly no educated women can tolerate the adverse remarks passed by the sister in-law and mother in-law.


Why joint family?
But if we learn to compromise a little and try to be supportive, a joint family can be better option compared to nuclear family. A harmonic joint family provides good support both in terms of emotion and finance. In joint family all responsibility is shared by all members equally. Hence its better option to stay in joint family where both partners have to work due to rising cost of living. Children are brought up easily under good guidance of the grandparents and old people are taken care of easily too. Working parents get enough time for them. Even children also develop habit of sharing and helping each other.

How to Make Your Wife Love You Much More

Many husbands want to know how to make their wife to love them much more. It’s very difficult question to be answered. We may have heard from others saying that “it’s difficult to study’s the women’s mind”. Is this correct? Not the women’s but it’s also difficult to study men’s mind. Every woman is different, so there is no “one” answers applicable for this. A husband has to study his wife’s mind fully. There will be times when your wife may be in depression or in tension or bad mood for no valid reason even she might not know why she is so puzzled and depressed. Like man, women also have some traits.

Very few husbands may know that during periods and pregnancy, hormones imbalances causes mood swings in women. During this time you need to understand your wife emotion and act accordingly. You need to help her in household chores, demonstrate her how much you love her, how much she is important to your life. Small things like preparing a cup of tea and bringing a bunch of flower of her choice will add more sweetness in your married life. Every husband should try to avoid argument even if he feels that he is rational. Husbands should not feel ashamed in saying sorry if he feels he was wrong. If situation comes when debate get heated, then it’s better to discuss the situation once atmosphere get conducive for further discussion.

Husband should never lift his hand on his wife even in worse situation and try to understand the situation from wife point of view. It’s difficult to predict wife mind every time even no can do. For successful marriage both partner should try to compromise. Both should understand that everything they are doing is for the person to whom they love so much. The more important thing is love each other without any condition.

These few things and your little initiative will fill her heart with love for you.

Live-in relationship

Live in relationship is concepts under which two people live together before marriage. This concept is very common in western countries but is also spreading its root in India. This subject is controversial.

Many advocates live in relation as it allows them to understand each other better before they go for commitment. This helps them to decide whether the person they are going to marry is perfect for them or not. According to them their love for their partner does not require any certification or any stamp.

But very few live in relationship end up in marriage.

If two people love each other, is it necessary to judge each other before marriage? In love people overlook each other flaws and moreover no one is flawless. Marriage gives stability to relation, each partner share everything they have with each other.


Please come up with your views.

Rakhi Celebration – 4th Aug 2009

On 4th Aug 2009 I went to play school to pick up my son, Ayush. The school has organized a Rakhi Celebration for all kids. Every girl has to tie a Rakhi on boys wrists. Celebration has been orgainised So that kids enjoy it and learn at same time. These things are necessary in today’s environment where we live in a nuclear family. And now a days working parents prefer one or two kids. Where only few are lucky to have one sister and one brother combination. So kids miss lots of things we used to get in a bigger family with lots of cousins.

After reaching I asked the school staff to call Ayush. When his teacher brought him to me, he just ran toward me and hugged me tightly and started crying. I was shocked to see him behaving like this. Many things came into my mind, has teacher said something to him or any other child has hurt him while playing etc. I rushed to teacher cabin to know the reason, his teacher replied “Nothing serious as such after rakhi celebration he started crying; even we asked him the reason”.

Then I saw rakhi on his wrist, now everything was clear. I hugged him and asked him what happned. He replied sweetly “mummy didi ne mujhe rakhi bandh diya mujhe aur tika laga diya”. Actually this was his first rakhabandhan and he was not able to make out what actually was going around.

On reaching home he removed his rakhi first. I offered him his favorite mitahyi kala jamun. I lift him up and try to tell him what rakhi celebration is all about. When I told him we will visit nani’s house tomorrow for rakhi. smile came on my face on his prompt reply that “mama bhi royega jab aap rakhi bandhoge”.

What is the base of any marriage?

Whenever any one of us confront with this question, the possible answer that comes in our mind is trust and love. Both the partner should have respect for each other and both should give importance to each other dreams. But if partners are not communicating to each other or communication is just for name sake, then from where trust will come. Neither the husband or nor the wife will be knowing much about each other. Lack of communication breeds apathy and mistrust, which over a period destroys the best of marriages.

Arguing is always good between any husband and wife as it clear all misunderstanding, but imposing of decision either on husband or wife can make the relation bitter. Decision should always be taken, considering all aspects including each other engagement, priorities etc. Otherwise, ill feelings can build up, and turn into wounds that never heal.

Never try to slight your partner, especially before others. It is one wound that never heals. Both the partner should try to change if the situation demands. Minor changes in any of the partner for his/her love can never hurt their ego or self respect.

Marriage is an emotional relationship. This only survives if both partner communicate and give importance to each other.

Please come up with your suggestion if anybody has.

Difficult Times

Today after dinner I started watching TV serial. That episode is of bidayi .I burst into tears as it took me into memories of my bidayi .I still remember that day I was crying a lot as was not able to cope with pain of separating from my parents.

I don’t know why it happens that a girl has to leave her parental house and move to a family to whom she do not know completely. She has to rely on a person about whom she is not confident whether he will support her whole life or she has to just compromise there for everything.

Think if husband or in-laws of any girl are not supporting .Then what would happen to her? Certainly she would collapse or will get into depression.

Lucky are those who get nice and supporting husband.

Importance of Communication between Husband and Wife

Communication is a very important element in maintaining a good relationship with your spouse. During the first couple of years of marriage we devote time to listen to one another. But after few year of marriage both of them get very less time to communicate, reason could be anything. Both husband and wife must take every single decision with each other consent.
We all make mistakes, no one is perfect. Both Husbands and wife make plenty of mistakes. Never belittle a spouse for something that he or she may have done. Talk about the matter ,try to find the solution and learn to forgive .
If communication breaks down between husband and wife then both will be in trouble. We all know marriage is not easy like any thing else,but if husband and wife communicate to each other it will help to make it a much better.